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What is the psychology of adolescence?

Psychology of adolescence refers to that branch of psychology that deals with the period of growth characterized by the transition from childhood to adult state. It coincides with the age of about 11 to 20.

This evolutionary phase represents a very delicate moment in the life of an individual, marked by a complex process of separation from parental figures and their childlike identity. New identifying models are identified in the peer group and in the external social context.

Naturally, young people at this stage experience the complexity of transitioning to adulthood, while putting a strain on the family system.

At this stage, the possibility of adequate parental support and sometimes external psychological support becomes vital

The couple in a broad sense is born and originates from ancestral needs of attachment and protection and is essential in a healthy path of growth and development of personality and relationships.
Precisely, the term “couple”, is understood as the conjunction of two subjects who by their free choice have decided to form a unit, regulated by precise conditions said and sub-understood. Each couple, however, is very different from the others, and brings with it an ideal of different love, as well as ways of living and manifesting it. In general, however, both partners should be mature enough to structure a strong bond, albeit constantly changing and restructuring over time and changing mutual needs and needs. Each link inevitably carries nebulosities and conflicts, which, if not managed properly, can lead to real ruptures.

Generally they appear when the two partners begin to feel differentiated from the original symbiotic sense, typical of the early stages of the formation of the couple, and especially when a child arrives. So everything changes, everything has to be revolutionized and you have to tidy up your own peculiarities. Not to be underestimated is also the entry into mature age, with all the consequences that it brings: fantasies of abandonment of the partner, death and feelings of fragility and helplessness, often linked to the decline of mutual sexual desire.

As it turns out, every stage of couple’s life can be marked by a particular problem related to the sphere of emotions and sexuality. Specifically, sexual problems are the result of physical or psychological causes: for example, a decrease in desire could result from reduced female production of estrogen in women rather than testosterone in men. Other common organic causes of libido decline include the biological process of aging, stress and physical fatigue situations, or prolonged use of certain antidepressants (especially SSRRs, although there are no scientific studies that prove this correlation).

Among the psychological and psychological causes, however, particular pathologies such as depression and anxiety, are definitely responsible for the decrease in libido. All this can result in the total or partial frigidity of the woman, who accuses painful if not impossible relationships (vaginismus and dispareunia) and the difficulty of erection in men. Sometimes it is normal to run into the couple’s “no” periods, but if these are continuous over time and accompany the aversion and avoidance of the partner, it will be necessary to intervene with a precise therapy, which goes to deeply investigate the sphere of emotions, mainly those related or resulting from low self-esteem and confidence in the other, any depressive frameworks, anxiety, fear of sexuality, feelings of guilt and any trauma suffered suffered , both physical and psychological.

Couple therapy is very suitable in these types of problems, with a very good chance of success to solve them definitively. The important thing is to rely on an expert in the field, who, through a targeted and personalized intervention ad hoc, accompanies the two partners to find within themselves the most suitable strategic methodologies to act in the internal and external reality. Couple therapy also has the task of finding a proper balance between fusion and differentiation, to avoid unpleasant feelings of annulment rather than excessive distance. A good therapist should ensure that the couple learns to handle present and future conflicts and dissolve hidden unconscious and repressed traumas, which often remain unexpressed and therefore unresolved. The purpose of the therapeutic path is also to keep alive the spark of desire, both intellectual and sexual, in an uneven dialogue of adaptive evolutions and stabilizations, making each subject emotionally competent.

By virtue of this, it is based on the premise of the therapeutic alliance, an empathetic and transferal relationship between the two actors of the path of care, centered on mutual trust and built for progressive goals and steps. In principle, a couple therapy session takes place once a week in the first period and then at a fortnightly, then continues depending on the degree of conflict and resistance present.